You Know You’re A Mommy When…by Christine Lee-McNaughton
Lately, I find that the tiniest, most trivial and insignificant things get me excited. For example, getting my hair cut and styled is something most women do on a regular basis, but this little detail is a splurge for me now. Why? Well, I am rarely ever without my daughter when I’m not teaching and I almost never do things for myself or buy things for myself.
I know, I know. A happy Mom is a healthy Mom, la dee da dee da. Yes, I realize that in order for us to take care of our families, we need to first take care of ourselves. I’ve spoken to many moms out there who make time for themselves and get their manicures, pedicures, hair cuts/styles/colours/
highlights. How though? How on earth do they manage to squeeze that all in? I have trouble jumping out of bed, getting ready, getting Little One ready, teaching grammar all day, rushing back home to cook supper, get everything done and be in bed at a decent hour.
I used to be really spontaneous, carefree, free-spirited, and adventurous. I used to globe-trot and jet-set all over the world. Before I turned 25, I had already been to eleven countries, thirteen U.S. states, and four Canadian provinces. Now, I’m lucky if I get out of Ontario once or twice a year! A lot has to do with the responsibilities of being an adult with a family, but it also has to do with the not having the time or energy to do all those things anymore. We do take Little One on road trips and she goes everywhere with us. It’s not the same as just hopping on a plane to the Dominican Republic for a week though.
The one thing I’ve started doing for myself has been going for speed walks with a good friend of mine. With toddlers in tow, we march up and down the highway to get some exercise and some “us” time.
Speaking of “us” time, I don’t even remember when Hubby and I had our last date. Little One is 22 months old, so…I guess our last date would have been over two years ago! Whoa! Okay, unless you count that funeral we went to sans child. That wasn’t exactly a date though. We are both well aware that we need to schedule in some “date nights” and “us time”. Hopefully sometime in the near future? It just seems like life is too busy for that right now, but we are aware that the little everyday things are very important.
I know that in order to keep the fire burning, date nights are important. Happy, healthy, balanced relationships (be it mother-child, husband-wife, sister, friend, etc), we need to take time and do things for ourselves. We all know this. It’s about time we did something about it.
A very good friend once told me that “Just once a month” is all it takes to recharge or refresh one’s batteries. She told me to treat myself to something nice “just once a month…and every month”. Make time for yourself and make time for yourself AND your husband. Being a Mom is part of our lives. It isn’t the only part of our lives.
Christine is a blogger and member of the BornFree Mom Panel.
How many of you pamper yourselves every now and then? How many of you go on date nights with your significant other? Where do you go? What do you do?
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